Become Passion Selected Resources
BOOKS
Buddha's Bedroom - The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy - by Cheryl Fraser
Mating in Captivity – Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic - by Esther Perel
Come as You Are – The Surprising New Science that will Transform Your Sex Life - by Emily Nagoski
Better Sex through Mindfulness – How Women can Cultivate Desire – by Lori Brotto
She Comes First by Ian Kerner
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
Eight Dates – Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love – by John Gottman and Julie Swartz Gottman
Hold Me Tight – Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
NOT “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering your Sanity after Infidelity by Shirley Glass
Becoming Cliterate & A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex by Laurie Mintz, Ph.D.
Passionate Marriage – Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships - by David Schnarch
Enhancing Couple Sexuality – Creating and Intimate and Erotic Bond – by Barry and Emily McCarthy
The New Male Sexuality – The Truth about Men, Sex, and Pleasure - by Bernie Zilbergeld
The New Love and Sex After Sixty by Robert Butler and Myrna Lewis
Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex by Barry McCarthy and Michael Metz
The Multi-Orgasmic Man – How any man can experience Multiple Orgasms and Dramatically Enhance his Sexual Relationship – by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava
For Yourself – The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality – by Lonnie Barbach
MEDITATION SUPPORT
Guided Meditations with Cheryl can be found at www.drcherylfraser.com/buddhasbedroom and www.islanddharma.com
From Emotional Chaos to Clarity – by Phillip Moffit (Book)
SEXUAL TOYS & AIDS
Cheryl's Top Picks
Great Sexuality stores - order online - ship to Can and US and more
Womyn's Ware - https://womynsware.com/
*** Here is a list of specific toys that the owner of Womyn's Ware suggested to the couples in the monthly program - she did a detialed masterclass for our Awakened Lover Community! (YES, you get access to it when you join the monthly program)
Other highly recommended toys -
Lelo Brand Toys - https://www.lelo.com
& https://www.lelo.com/picobong
Other Good Sites and Specific Toys
Crave - https://www.lovecrave.com/shop/
Dame - https://www.dameproducts.com
Lioness Smart Vibrator - https://lioness.io
Fleshlight - https://www.fleshlight.com
Hitachi Magic Wand - Healthy and Active - www.healthyandactive.com
Soul Source Vaginal Dilators - https://www.soulsource.com
Oh Nut Wearable - https://ohnut.co
Stockroom - https://www.stockroom.com **For any clients who might be interested in the kinkier side of things**
Lubes - Fuckwater, Uberlube
Toys mentioned by Cheryl - Panty Vibrator, Penis rings, Board & Card games, Finger Vibes
WEBSITES & ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Ted Talk by Esther Perel – “The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship”
The Gottman Institute - https://www.gottman.com/
Help us debunk the myths around women's low sexual desire – check out the #DebunkingDesire website!
Lori Brotto's research - http://www.brottolab.com
A Woman's Touch Sexuality Resource Center in Madison. They research their products and have high quality toys, lubes, etc. They also have some great downloadable educational brochures on a variety of sexuality and sexual health topics. For those who don't know them, Ellen Barnard, MSW, and Myrtle Wilthite, MD, MS, are brilliant and generous resources. Let's support the small businesses!
www.omgyes.com - The Science of Women’s Pleasure
http://drstayton.com - A sensate focus program with real couples. These videos are featured in courses at the Center for Human Sexuality Studies at Widener University. If you decide to purchase one or all of them you can use the code: Widener30 and receive a 30% discount on any or all of them.
COUPLES FRIENDLY PORN/FILMMAKERS/WEBSITES
A note from Cheryl – Pornography/Erotica is a loaded topic. It can also be an exciting “dark sensual energy” exploration for some individuals and couples. I’ve asked my colleagues in SSTAR – Society for Sex Therapy and Research – to list some of the filmmakers, websites, and Erotica books they recommend to couples. Here is what they had to say:
Names of Feministic, Sex Positive Porn Producers/Directors/Actors: Tristan Taormino, Erika Lust, Nina Hartley
Websites – (Note from Cheryl - most of these website require you to make a purchase or pay a monthly membership fee – just like purchasing book or toy, our hobby takes some investment. But you can peruse without purchase. Be aware – Explicit material)
https://xconfessions.com/categories
http://www.nina.com/ninahartley.php
EROTICA BOOKS
My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday
The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy by Anne Rice
Mortal Companion by Patrick Califia
The Crimes of Love - The Marquis de Sade
Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica - Edited by Tristan Taormino
